Saturday, 27 April 2013

SEx and Sexuality - Fixing a spicy sex menu

Funmi Akingbade 
By Funmi Akingbade (cafi.punch@yahoo.com)
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We all are aware that a good menu consists of variety of food, in various forms. A menu is served with various dishes, eaten with different levels of anticipation. So likewise are sexual menus. It will be discouraging to create a special appointment and at the end,there are no ‘special dishes’ to compliment it.

You have to appear sexy to the taste of your spouse because there are scores of individual childhood and adult experiences that strongly shape their idea of what is and is not sexy. You must appeal to your spouse’s sex taste bud. A sexy appearance helps condition a mate’s arousal mood. Some of the things a wife must invest in at all times are her undies and brassieres.

 You must be current as to the latest in town as this is one of the things that will easily get the attention of your man any time any day. Creative lacy and bright undies are preferred to the grandma type by most men and your cleavage must be well-pronounced with a good push up bra. It is amazing how some men think a pot belly is desirable to their wives. On the contrary, to many wives, the ‘v’-shape of a well-defined abdomen is as tantalizing as the female cleavage, especially when you place your boxers or panties a little bellow your waist line. Placing your panties just above your navel may dampen the sexy mood.

If there is one thing that can set the adrenalin and testosterone of your spouse rising, it is the act of flirtation. Unfortunately, many couples do this a lot while dating but stop after marriage. Flirtations always predict and hint at the possibility of an erotic, passionate and frivolous sexual encounter. This is one of the secret yearnings of many spouses (a recapture of frivolity in their marriage union).

When we flirt we play with our spouse’s desire for sex and set the tone of more things to come.
If you want the appointment to be a night long affair, wrap your arms around each other and kiss at intervals. This adds electricity to the nerves of your spouse. Also, treat all the erogenous zones with kisses. Until you get to this point you will never know that the feel of the soft mouth of your spouse against your skin can be so wonderfully erotic. 

For couples who have been married for long and have developed some familiarity with  the body of their spouse, they can crave for something new. Just try body kissing and you will discover that this is a wonderful way to surprise yourself and your partner.

This spark within moments builds into a fire, and sometimes it feels as though a lightning bolt has just electrified your waist and loins. Before you can put yourself together you are out of control. At this point, the husband should make sure that his wife is also in the same ‘wild sexual mood’ as he is. 

This will provide a deep sense of connection and intimacy. An unexplainable level of oneness and bonding is created immediately. If your wife finds more sexual pleasure in longer foreplay, this is the time to give it to her, to the extent of her abandoning her body in your arms. A wife should seize this opportunity to whisper what she wants into her husband’s ears in the sweetest form; direct his hands, fingers and hips to your desired destination. Do not leave any stone unturned. If you are more comfortable with the lights out, put them off and take this flight with him. Do not use this forum to ask for any financial favour but rather fulfil his sexual demands.

This type of sex not only binds, it heals, elevates, re-creates, energises and creates a sense of purposeful relationship and meaningful commitment. The aftermath of this type of sex is always productive. It gives couples enough room and opportunity to discuss issues that will take their relationship forward. It enables them to preview and review, to tackle unresolved issues amicably and find solutions to challenges affecting other areas of their relationship.

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